As a wedding planner, I often get asked whether a first look is the right choice for a couple's big day. The truth is, the decision ultimately depends on your personal preferences, expectations, and day-of logistics.
In this post, we'll explore some pros and cons of the first look, as well as some alternative options, to help you make an informed decision that aligns with your wedding style and vision.
What is a First Look?
A first look is a special moment when the couple sees each other for the first time on their wedding day, fully dressed and ready to go. Typically, this moment is private, with only the couple and photographer, taking place before the wedding ceremony begins.
The Pros of a First Look.
The Privacy: A first look offers an intimate moment away from the gaze of your guests. This can be especially appealing for couples who prefer a more private, personal experience before walking down the aisle.
Easing Nerves: Wedding jitters are common, and a first look can help calm those nerves by allowing you and your partner to connect and support each other before the ceremony. Spending this moment together can make you feel like a united team as you jump into the ceremony processional.
More Photo Opportunities: A first look allows additional time for photos with your partner, also offering a greater variety of backdrops and settings. Furthermore, the first look ensures ample time for group photos with family and friends because photos can be taken before the ceremony instead of cramming everything into the cocktail hour alone.
The Special Moment Captured: Photographers can capture the first look from an intimate angle, creating stunning images of you and your partner together. In contrast, during the ceremony, the distance between you may result in more separate photos and fewer angles, particularly if you only have one photographer.
Makeup Touch-ups: With a first look, you'll have time to touch up your makeup before the ceremony, ensuring you look your freshest appearance as you walk down the aisle.
The Cons of a First Look.
Breaking Tradition: Some couples prefer to uphold the tradition of waiting to see each other until the ceremony. If you value the drama and anticipation of the "altar reveal," a first look may not be the right choice for you.
Altered Ceremony Magic: Having a private first look can change the emotional dynamic of seeing each other during the ceremony. While it won't diminish the significance of the moment, it may feel different from what you initially imagined.
Earlier Start Time: Skipping the first look may give you extra time to rise and shine. Opting to do a first look means your day will start early to accommodate hair, makeup, and photography. Depending on your vendor packages, you may also need to add extra hours for photo and video to ensure they capture all the crucial moments.
Lighting Considerations: First looks often take place earlier in the day when outdoor lighting may be harsher than during your ceremony. Professional photographers should know how to work around this challenge, but it can impact the quality and aesthetic of your photos.
First Look Alternatives.
If you're still unsure about a first look, consider these alternatives that strike a balance between the traditional and nontraditional.
Letter Exchange: Letter Exchange: Writing heartfelt letters to each other is a deeply personal way to connect before the ceremony without actually seeing each other. You can express your love, excitement, and hopes for the future in a private and meaningful way while keeping some of the mystery intact for the ceremony.
First Touch: A first touch allows you to physically connect with your partner without seeing each other. This can take place in a quiet, secluded location, using doorways, corner walls, or adjoining rooms to maintain the element of surprise.
First Looks with other VIPs: Through the years, first looks have become more and more popular. However, this experience isn't just reserved for you and your future spouse.
If you and your fiancé prefer to save the big reveal for the ceremony, consider sharing a first look with other important people in your life, such as parents, siblings, or members of your wedding party. This offers a unique opportunity to capture special moments and reactions with your loved ones.
Making Your Decision.
Ultimately, the decision to have a first look should be based on what feels right for you and your partner. Take the time to discuss your preferences, consider the logistics of your wedding day, and consult with your wedding planner or photographer for expert advice. Whatever you choose, rest assured that your wedding day will be filled with beautiful, heartfelt moments that you'll cherish for a lifetime.
Regardless of whether you choose a first look or not, remember that the moment you and your future spouse lay eyes on each other – be it during a private encounter or walking down the aisle – will be incredibly special and unforgettable.
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